MEMORY IS FICTION

To begin with, let me make a disclaimer that it has nothing to do with psychological theories etc...as I am not one who has read psychology as a subject for any degree, but yes, I have read Bergson and Deluze for my research purpose for understanding of memory concepts. Here, I am more concerned about the practical way of looking at things than theorizing and preaching...

Now, is the reason for bringing this up: "For my friends especially to know and accept that their thoughts and lives are made by their own way of keeping those memory banks".

We find it strange that we aren't able to remember why we opened fridge or our own password for opening up our email at times, but we remember the dress some girl (looking better than me 😠) wore with those high heeled catwalk shoes .. or may be ... what our relative once commented on our cooking not-so-round chapatis. Technically there can be reasons for that, but I would like to bring to foreground that it's more so because of the weight-age we give to certain things and people in life than others. Memory is just a fiction, as we remember what we want to. Even, if we remember an incident, we don't remember the whole part of it at times, but just the one which embarrassed us the most, or that which made us proud. So, if memory is a kind of fiction, why shall we not try and re-write it?

Let's prune for ourselves the thoughts that we would like to remember in future from the ones which are of no use to us. Training yourself to do this might seem a little difficult in the beginning but the benefits are worth it. From the broad tapestry of your memory, choose the inspirational moments, and move on. From the incidences when people embarrassed you for not knowing something, just record the part where you successfully learnt how to do that something than those which uselessly rent out your own private memory space. As you will realize after a dedicated effort in this direction that memory is just a fiction, and can be controlled for positive approach in life, you will no longer fear being alone with your negative thoughts, that once just entered your mind and life to ruin the present too. You would be a good company to yourself the moment you realize that you can control your thoughts, and hence memory too. 

Just tried to pen down a few poetic lines addressing "Memory":

(here "you/ your" is "memory")

If I bow to you as is my duty
And if you never return my salutation
Have I not a cause for complaint?
I feel no obligation to allow you a place
in my heart, and soul, and life.

I follow the religion of positive thinking
My beloved though you can't be ignored
I intend to reward myself with your bliss
Seldom you give than take that goodness away
Now I'm determined to be a shepherd of Wisdom
and train you my positive harmless ways.

Wishing you "the makers of your own memory" GOODTIMES ... now and always...